Gregory's ServerIf we weren’t driven by some internal sense of justice, we would be like the rest of the happy chill people who are fun to banter with and backpedal furiously the instant someone criticizes them. You all benefit from the misery that the unpleasant stubborn difficult people go through to create and defend online boundaries that keep out shitty people - who do know when to flatter and agree and insinuate so they can get access to victims.
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 Learn to distinguish between someone who has uncompromising moral standards and is brave enough to stand up for them in the face of attacks and threats from very scary dangerous people, and someone who enjoys hurting other people. It’s true that sadists and power-hungry people often masquerade as justice-seekers. It’s your job to learn the difference in behaviors. One difference is the second is more likely to be pleasant to you if you’re “important” in some way. The person who is equally grating and annoying to the admin of a powerful instance, some nobody on the internet, and a person who is used to receiving politeness and respect due to their privilege is more likely to be someone doing good work that benefits society than the person who is pleasant to only the powerful and privileged. So if you have some privilege or power, take a hard look at your own preferences and biases towards people who make you feel good. This is all to say: let people doing hard unpleasant difficult social justice work be hard, unpleasant, and difficult themselves!!! </rant>  @vaurora here's something: They may not be 'nice,' but they ARE 'kind,' which is much, much more important. Kind people don't let shitheads do shithead things to people. |
So someone didn’t respond to a helpful technical tip with gushing gratitude and positivity. I’ve been there - it’s hard when you receive constant bullshit criticism to feel anything other than rage when someone tells you that you are Doing It Wrong. I’ve learned a lot of ways to pass on information I think someone wants to know in ways that don’t trigger this response. If you’re not on the receiving end of the DDoS and death threats, I suggest you take that work on yourself.