The person who is equally grating and annoying to the admin of a powerful instance, some nobody on the internet, and a person who is used to receiving politeness and respect due to their privilege is more likely to be someone doing good work that benefits society than the person who is pleasant to only the powerful and privileged. So if you have some privilege or power, take a hard look at your own preferences and biases towards people who make you feel good.
This is all to say: let people doing hard unpleasant difficult social justice work be hard, unpleasant, and difficult themselves!!!
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