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Paul Nix
@jeffowski Single tear π’ followed by cool runnings slow clap that builds to momentous applause.
that one JNL
@jeffowski FAO progressive movement building. Most people do not secretly yearn to be hazed, have a kink for being treated like shit, or have much willingness to subject their friends and family members to awkward and miserable interactions.
phanjam
@jeffowski apparently the olofahere Tumblr blog is inactive? It would be nice if you could tell us more about them.
C.L. Who
@jeffowski Many don't enjoy being around ones family and it's the families fault. If they want that family member around treat them better.
Cainmark π²
Huh, my family and childhood and teenaged friends were more common in their behaviors than I realized. Years of therapy helped.
Phil Rees
@jeffowski Anyone experiencing this should consider whether they are the family scapegoat.
Mat Bradshaw
Strained relationship with a parent. "Hello stranger" as an opening gambit on the phone when I finally CALLED YOU, not the other way round, just added another 3 anxiety filled weeks to the gap between our next communication Dead now. Missed out on so much by being like this. Your loss not mine. I see my kids every day. You saw them less than their dentist
Mat Bradshaw
Sorry, touched a nerve there, but stand by it God forbid my children ever feel like this and I don't get every possible moment with my grandchildren. What a waste of life to not love those you can and should love
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I see a lot of this sort of behavior when people are shitty to others who acknowledge they were wrong and someone else was correct. If you take that opportunity to be shitty be prepared for that being the last time anyone says you were right about anything.
π©βπ¦―The Blind Fraggle
@jeffowski I didn't like drinking water when I was a kid. Who wants water when there's soda around? The only time I even drank milk was sleepovers at my aunt's house and that was what she served with dinner. Up into my 30s probably I could count on one hand the times I willingly drank water. Point is, I didn't always make the healthiest choices. Anyway, whenever I did drink water, my mother and my aunt would say to each other, "she's gonna get poisoned!" Guess what that made me not wanna do? 1
π©βπ¦―The Blind Fraggle
@jeffowski I guess no one loves drinking water, though some people seem to do it more naturally than others, but they made it a lot more dificult to learn to drink it than it had to be.
HUNK
@Fragglemuppet @jeffowski But then there are those times when, "No, I need something with calories in it."
HUNK
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Mike JπΉπ π€π»
@jeffowski This also applies in the world of policy. If somebody from the other side sees the light and joins you, you don't have to announce to the world that you disapprove of WHY they converted. That doesn't mean you have to accept all of their other views, but when you get a W, take it.
epicdemiologist
@jeffowski My favorite example is people whose dog gets loose, so they call the dog and when it comes they hit it. WTF???
vandenberglegs
@jeffowski This happened all the time in our house growing up. We make a conscious point of not doing it with our kids.
Jigme Datse
@jeffowski I've been quite aware of this, and it still ends up being very discouraging when making an effort and really struggling to do so, that there's a lot of, "why can't you do this all the time?" sort of thing.
Phil Fee
@jeffowski no matter their mood, it's always true to tell my child "I'm glad you're here." One of the many important lessons I learned from Alfie Kohn's "Unconditional Parenting" That was ten years ago, and reading that book (and a few others) has proven to be one of the best things I've ever done for my kids and myself.
Mechadragon Yria :transbian:
@jeffowski I feel like the people doing this don't even see their snarkiness as punishment or harmful. But it is.
Sebastian :coffefied:
@daisy True! It has been done to me and we are sometimes doing it to our children, unfortunately. The trick is, it's never a malicious intent. It usually stems out of frustration and emotions can be hard to control, especially if the whole situation has been caused by an hour of annoying behaviour. @jeffowski
Niko
@jeffowski i remember in the final days living with my abusive father it was just a lot of this |
@jeffowski always a good thing to keep in mind