Gregory's ServerMuting/blocking people is self-care. Claiming it's antisocial is antisocial.
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 Yeah, this is really important to realise. It is always okay to block or mute for any reason! It isn't an offensive thing to do on here! It's just a choice of what you want to see, and it isn't necessarily any kind of comment on the objective value of the account you block. (I guess only exception would be some kind of public body, they shouldn't really be blocking their own citizens. But those kinds of accounts are only a tiny minority.) It happened to me a while ago: I had a discussion with someone who, after a while, decided they didn't want to think about my arguments any longer: I was blocked. What I had not anticipated: I no longer had access to the other person's original toots, those that I had answered. My answers were now orphaned. It did feel a bit rude to have that done to me. You say I should not mind? @dj3ei @feditips @rysiek @thekitmalone You can mind all you like. And it may have been rude. But you're not owed access to that person. Agreed. "Block as you want" seems to be part of the current Fediverse code of conduct. I feel that code could be improved upon, but admit I'm not sure how. If blocking happens, one of the two people involved is probably being rude already. Maybe the code of conduct improvement I'd like to see needs a better world than the one where that happens, to begin with. I'm uncertain. @dj3ei @feditips @rysiek @thekitmalone The rule applies to real life interactions as well though. Noone owes another person their attention, outside of items directly affecting that persons safety and wellbeing. It's NICE if people communicate why they need to disengage, but they have every right to do so regardless.  @dj3ei Blocking alters the record of what has happened. I might want to re-evaluate my own actions in the context of the conversation, and maybe learn a thing. That becomes more difficult as I no longer get to see the other person's old posts, including those directed to me or even privately sent to only me. I'm not demanding someone keeps listening to my future musing if they don't want to. @dj3ei @feditips @rysiek @thekitmalone There should be a way for you to access all your own toots, but the way I think about it, that's a software problem, not a people blocking people problem.  @dj3ei @feditips @rysiek @thekitmalone Probably. Your answers are going to end up being orphaned anyway, it's just the nature of federation. Scroll back a few months in someone's feed who don't purge their posts (such as my feed). Click on a random reply and it's highly likely the post it was a reply to is no longer available. Someone blocking just causes that to happen quicker. @feditips @rysiek @thekitmalone I’ve blocked everyone pretending to be Elon since they’re probably all him. @Aleggra @feditips @rysiek @thekitmalone Just goes to show that self care can indeed be proactive! @rysiek @thekitmalone Amen. Sometimes people try to get into arguments and I’m way too old for internet arguments. The block button is right there!  @rysiek @thekitmalone came here to say that. In fact, since blocking someone only effects me, I don't see how it can be anti-social, anyway. Might as well say that not turning up to a concert is antisocial. @fishidwardrobe@mastodon.me.uk @rysiek@mstdn.social @thekitmalone@hoosier.social Blocking someone also prevents them from mentioning you in a reply. I think *that's* where the "antisocial" angle comes from. @rysiek @thekitmalone , this so much. My life is now 'people part of the solution' and 'people not part of the solution'. I can come off toxic, but I am just boldly tired of the inhumanity of our species. Sorry, NTs, I don't like your 'survival of the fittest'. If that's the case, then cool for being a successful replacement cog. I'm more than a means of mindless continuance for this species. @rysiek @thekitmalone plenty of racism, antisemitism, and patronizing/condescending folks to block around here. Report button is handy too.  @themastodoning humans gonna human. But at least there are communities and community leaders (admins, moderators) around here who are willing to step up and step in. We need more of them, and we're nowhere near where we need to be for all people to feel safe and welcome, of course. More work is always needed. |
@rysiek @thekitmalone muting/blocking is just like how you'd decide not to interact with or pay attention to some people in the offline world