Gregory's ServerCan’t sleep because I’m thinking about work, can’t work because I need sleep.
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   @Gargron Ohne Schlaf tust du vielleicht Sachen, wie Mastodon irgendwann an Elon zu verkaufen! Geh schlafen!!!!   @Gargron Go for a 1 hour run, bike or swim - exhaust your body. Will clear your mind from work and make you sleep better. Nature’s own drug.  @Gargron In case it helps: Yes, you should get back to fostering decentralisation and open standards. No, you should not keep trying to make Mastodon more proprietary and centralized.  Sorry to hear that, but this video from Gresham College might prove a worthy hour of your time. If you have not come across them, Gresham runs free lectures (donations welcome) at university level, in person and more recently, online. They have been offered lectures for 400 years.  @Gargron how about reading a novel in bed? Works for me. put it away when you feel sleepy. Doesn‘t work when you read on a laptop or smartphone.  @Gargron This is exactly why I start a podcast when I go to bed. It short-circuits my brain and keeps it from wandering to topics that keep me up… @Gargron have you tried meditating? Yesterday I was feeling so anxious, couldn’t concentrate in anything. My watch was showing my heart beating at 100 and I was just seating in front of a computer. Then I did a meditation session on the Apple’s fitness app and my heart beat fell to 60 and I started feeling better. It was impressive. It was the first time tried it.  @Gargron been there. Working on something you love can be both fun and draining. Try to rest. Your work will always be there when you wake up.   @Gargron Don't work from home if you can work from an office. Or have an office at home, and don't work anywhere else and keep office hours, and use your office strictly for work. Work life balance needs firm time boundaries. Tea breaks used to be very important, because concentration is best with 2 hour sessions and a 20 minute break between. My career had better enforced boundaries when working from home wasn't an option and everything and everyone stopped at tea break time. @Gargron That sounds a pretty tough lifestyle - I don't think I'd cope with it well either. In that situation the best I can suggest is you put time in your diary to get out the home, to exercise, socialise, experience art/music or just chill outdoors or at a book library, keep to it and make sure all notifications and devices are off when you're chilling, resting or winding down listening to some music or reading a novel getting ready to sleep. @Gargron That's just not sustainable for more than a few months. I've done 1 or 2 death march programming projects in the distant past. My son also burned out trying to do too much teaching and research, and has had to take some years out to get his health back. We're human beings, not human doings. 50 hours quality work in a week is more productive longer term than never switching off and doing other things, because you'll do more limited sessions in a better state of mind. Just say no. @Gargron Let your body rest and then go back to work, so you can both have good health and focus on work. Good luck!    Ed Grimley on SCTV in the 70's. He cracked his bedroom door a millimeter and his dad instantly screamed "Go to bed!!" You just reminded me of that for some reason lol. Yeah You kinda dug yourself into a hole there, didn’t you? Was that an own-goal, or what? Did you really not think about the optics of dumping default signups onto a ginormous instance you control, through your app that’s name-branded as *the* “Mastodon” app? Or did you just not care? @Gargron @Gargron #burnout is a serious problem and one that gets worse over time pretty quickly. Fortunalty there are lots of things that can help. I’m not offering my prevention and recovery class right now, but if you want an experienced sympathetic ear or someone to help you build an issue board and iterative recovery plan then hit me up. I’d be happy to do a free consult as a very small thank you for the benifits your work is bringing to us all.    |
@gargron Time to sell Mastodon to Meta