Gregory's Serveri feel like it would be a really good day for a bunch of cis people to put their pronouns in their profiles, and ESPECIALLY to toss a โtheyโ into the mix if they can.
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@jepyang @lennby yeah for real โบ๏ธ itโs so good most cis people probably catch a they/them occasionally and never even notice  i know itโs not necessarily an option for everyone, but i just want to emphasize that this is *very real* allyship. normalizing proactively offering pronouns provides cover to trans people who want to be gendered in a certain way but donโt want to have to out themselves or other themselves. normalizing pronouns outside of the binary provides cover to nonbinary people who donโt want their pronouns to automatically out them, or otherwise donโt want their pronouns to constantly be A Thing. @jepyang My pronouns are any/all. I will always respect other people's pronouns, but I see them as linguistic conveniences that have no bearing on who I am. I hope to live long enough to see the end of gendered pronouns - in English, at least. @SordidAmok nice! i used to use any pronouns myself, and still allow trusted people that privilege. but i also found that a lot of people used it as an excuse to avoid adjusting their behavior at all. it felt unproductive in terms of changing norms, and at times personally disrespectful. @jepyang Thanks! I've listed my pronouns in my profiles for years but hadn't considered adding "they" - I'll have to consider that! When I still thought I was cis, I put some effort into looking for a pronoun pin for my apron (I worked at a coffee shop at the time). If the goal is to have people stop assuming, then *everyone* needs to practice giving people answers so they know how to be respectful. @SocialGaff yeah i try really hard to make sure posts like this come off as a suggestion rather than, like, โreal allies *have* to do thisโ because i definitely remember, while i thought i was cis, really wanting to add โtheyโ to my pronouns for years and not feeling able toโฆfor some reasonโฆ (it was an eggshell that was desperately trying not to crack). but yeah, when cis people feel ok about it and do it, it makes me really happy. itโs a little thing that really does matter.  @jepyang @SocialGaff @jepyang@wandering.shop on it bossโ:menherakun_salute:โ  @jepyang OK, on it. I've had my pronouns in my profile and sig file for ages, but never really considered they. I guess it fits just fine, because I'm fairly loosey-goosey with gender, so I'll go add. Solidarity. ๐ซ @spiegelmama hell yeah, i love people who are loosey-goosey with gender ๐ |
@jepyang Great suggestion, which I have acted on, thanks.