@whitequark i don't usually post about this side of things but if it helps to have another anecdote, im absolutely delighted with what i got out of it and it does continue to make me happy that i was able to get this done
(i mean im extremely ace and also generally quite chaste by Fedi standards so this isn't something id have cause to discuss much
it's also extremely inaccessible in this country so ... yknow can't post too much about something i got extremely lucky to be in a position to be able to afford, all that does is amplify the hurt for people in no.2)
but like the aspect of joy you describe above - content with your body, enough to talk about it, to which id add other aspects of "content to...." - that's real, i don't know if it helps to know that but it is; i get that, and im privileged to know a couple of others irl who feel that way too
(this part seems heavily dependent on the random chance of who your social group are)
@erisceleste i'm grey-ace and the primary reason i'm interested in sex in a visceral way is _because_ of how it makes (or rather, not makes, in practice) me feel about my body, so like it's not like i don't relate to that
it's in a somewhat more complex way but not completely unlike