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When Dev & I hang out with older sailor friends(hetero married couples), it is crazy how often they bicker(edit: not in a cute way), or are rude to each other, right in front us :/.

It is SUPER uncomfortable :neofox_nervous:

5 February at 17:49 | Open on merveilles.town
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Maybe(oz)

@rek I wonder if that’s a cultural thing.

In some places, arguing publicly and disagreeing (sometimes loudly) is very normal, or tolerated up to a point.

5 February at 17:53 | Open on mastodon.social
R E K

What really grinds my gears is when the men don't let their partners speak, or cut them off mid-sentence. It happens SO MUCH... :neofox_scream_angry:

5 February at 17:54 | Open on merveilles.town
clarity flowers

@rek bickering can be cute when it’s loving (source: my fiancee is jewish lmao) but this shit is just vile

5 February at 17:58 | Open on xoxo.zone
R E K

@clarity Oh yea it wasn't loving at all >___<... I ought to have specified ^^.
Cute bickering can be very endearing.

5 February at 18:26 | Open on merveilles.town
clarity flowers

@rek yeah I think I know the kind you mean. straight people are not okay

5 February at 18:44 | Open on xoxo.zone
Z@b0\/\/

@rek yeah, when male children see their dad do that all the time with their mother they think that's normal and some cannot stop as adults 😞

5 February at 18:07 | Open on mastodon.bida.im
R E K

@zabow I mostly see that with Boomers and early Gen X couples, not so much with people my age(Millenials) or younger (may depend though).
But you're right, some ppl never unlearn bad behavior.

5 February at 18:26 | Open on merveilles.town
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R E K

@xyhhx I tried to do that the other day but the guy's response was to raise his voice, over my voice, and hers...? Like... wtf =____=...

Hope your client responded better than that.

7 February at 4:35 | Open on merveilles.town
poetaster

@rek my GF is north German. Her mother is a dragon. I'm a loud mouth, a times, but the nasty way they can belittle, is b'yond compare. Generally, men are more agro, but not in my family. My maternal g'mah was similar. I smoke bombed her with 3d gen. Awe & Affection. Ah, well, works as well even if it's somewhat underhanded.

5 February at 18:08 | Open on mastodon.gamedev.place
Gosha

@rek That's a miserable way to live your life. I think some people just get so used to relating to their partner this way that for them it becomes "normal"... It happened in my family, and I hate it when I notice similar tendencies in myself.

5 February at 21:57 | Open on merveilles.town
ndpi

@rek word on the street is that contempt is the leading indicator of failed marriages. It certainly seems immiserating to live in a relationship where you don’t get or give respect.

5 February at 22:06 | Open on merveilles.town
Somnius :server_tiger:

@rek As I say to my partners when we experience these things, "the straights are not okay".

The heteronormative assumption that people who are married should hate each other is really tired and stuff like this comes up all the time sadly :\

5 February at 23:54 | Open on merveilles.town
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