@TechConnectify you're absolutely right, on both counts.

a) The Fediverse as it is right now does not support good self-care tools. Which is a shame, because these could be probably easily implemented. Someone "just" needs to build a client that handles these things. (https://phanpy.social/#/ for example corrects a lot of gripes for me. Not perfect though...)

b) People telling others they are fediversing wrong are the worst :)