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Dr. Victoria Grinberg

People post because they want to vent, to share their frustration, to make others laugh or shake heads. If ppl post to get advice, they usually ask.

So: You want to give advice?

Has the person explicitly asked for it? No? Then don't.

But you really, really want to give advice! Still: no!

But your advice is really relevant! Still: no.

But you also know the person well (you follow them & they you & you interacted): ask if they want advice. If they don't explicitly say yes - it's still a no.

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Carita Sommer

@vicgrinberg
Well said! ๐Ÿ‘
(But then: Are you just giving us your advice to not give any advice unless asked for? ๐Ÿ˜‰)

Daniil Baturin

@Carita_Sommer @vicgrinberg I received useful unsolicited advice multiple times.
Metaphorically, I might say something like "I'm driving nails with a screwdriver and it's so frustrating" and the advice to use a hammer (which I didn't know existed) was the most useful response I could have received.

Dr. Victoria Grinberg

@dmbaturin @Carita_Sommer Most advice I get a replies to a post of "I am driving nails with a specialized hammer" with "I googled and found the screwdriver may also work, have you tried it?", usually from hobby crafts guys who don't understand that due to my background, I'm rather experienced in professional handicraft in general.

Carita Sommer

@vicgrinberg @dmbaturin
There seems to be some disagreement on the subject. ๐Ÿ˜Š Still, I'm with you. ๐Ÿ‘

Dr Manabu Sakamoto (he/him)

@Carita_Sommer @vicgrinberg Are you asking for advice on the difference between posting vs commenting on someone elseโ€™s post?

Smeerworst

@vicgrinberg are you giving me an advice with this post?

Ghost

@vicgrinberg@mastodon.social unfortunately there is still no way to post this every day twice. I am so tired of advices I never asked for.

Not David Beckham

@vicgrinberg
But what if Iโ€™m a reply guy? Asking for a friend.

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