Gregory's Server@happyborg I hope you've found ways to come to terms with it. It's bizarre to imagine how much information is lost to time in the heads of those that leave us, in a society where we so obsessively catalogue and record everything.
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 @happyborg I'm looking forward to that 'plateau of stability' in my own life with respect to the person I mention, where I can look back with a smile, as you do.  @jsbarretto it takes time. All the pain is I think a reflection of the love and specialness you had and feels like it is gone. But IME it isn't gone. I'm not really sure what has gone because so much is left inside us. When dad died, for months my memory of him was vivid, alive and as if I'd just seen him. I knew that would change at some point but it took quite a while, seeming as if he was still there. For mum that took far longer. She would chat to him every day. ❤️ |
@jsbarretto yes thanks. I wish the same for you too.
I'm ok with this. It reconnects my with the loss to think about it, but within that also is the love. So I get to remember that and smile while thinking about both my parents.
It boggles me to think back to being a boy, remember them and realise how young they were - thirty years younger than I am now - as I recall those times.
It can get quite philosophical too, but these days I tend to just enjoy remembering.