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Claire

@ciggysmokebringer

I'm the same about volunteering info., unless the situation calls for it.

The amount of people who say "why didn't you tell me?" really underscores heteronormativity. I usually say, "Hmmm. I guess you assumed I was heterosexual?" lovingly, but yeah. I am read as straight and non-disabled most of the time and get accused of passing. I have no interest in passing but I also am not interested in broadcasting/centering my sexuality.

@dramypsyd

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Ciggy Bringer of Smoke

@Claire @dramypsyd

Thinking about all the times I have come out, and the strategic times I haven't, a lot of it boils down to

Them: "Why didn't you tell me"
Me: "I don't trust you enough to think I am the authority on my own experiences with this particular thing"

Dr. Amy, Psy.D.

@ciggysmokebringer @Claire

"Why didn't you tell me??" Well first of all they aren't owed that information, and second of all it's not YOUR fault they made an assumption about you. Not correcting an assumption is not the same as lying.

Ciggy Bringer of Smoke

@dramypsyd @Claire

I am the King of not correcting assumption! Well put!

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