Gregory's ServerI agree it's less toxic, but I disagree that that's entirely down to the norms here. (the existing community is in many ways fantastic, tho).
But I've already received hate speech and threats, although much much less than elsewhere.
I think it's down to size, and to accessibility of instance moderation. As some instances get big, and as adoption goes up - I think more trolling and rudeness is inevitable. I don't think we can rely on "people are just nicer here" for long.