@siege I had a similar experience. I still have my penis. It's average, but cute. Nothing to be ashamed of, for sure. And it's always done what I needed it to.
Starting transition, I thought I was happy with it. I wouldn't bother with surgery.
But about 6 months into transition, I looked in the mirror and saw a beautiful woman...with something that didn't belong between her legs.
Not to discredit women who keep theirs of course. But for me, it doesn't belong. It's not who I am. And it's not who I want to be.
Once I acknowledged that, I started to realize the other sensations I have in that area that are unique to my experience - phantom vagina. I'm wired to have a vagina. And I won't feel whole until I do.
And it's about me. Not anyone else. I need this for me, and my happiness. And that can be a tough thing to come to terms with.
@CordiallyChloe gotta put your own oxygen mask on first before helping others.