 To any of you ADHD folks out there... help! What systems help get you off the computer/phone to go to bed at night? My wifi turns off at 10pm and 10:30pm. My computer screen, too. And my phone runs TimeLimit.io. And I have an alarm on my phone. It doesn't seem to be effective though. I just end up overriding each night. I desperately need to get to bed at a decent time each night. Any ideas? 12 comments
Thanks for the suggestion. I haven't had caffeine in decades, but that was a good idea to check. In my case, it just seems to be an issue getting off the computer rather than getting to sleep. I'm asleep within 10 seconds of my head hitting the pillow. It's just getting it there!😂  @Blort It's all about building a habit. Make it your goal to keep your bedtime for one week - no matter what. After a week it will be much easier and after a month you'll have it habituated. I once automated my lamp to turn off at 23:00 but I just found myself turning it back on 😂 Building a habit is exactly what I'm trying to do. That requires a pattern of success which is what I'm having trouble with. My only goal for Q1, 2024 is to go to bed at 9:45pm every night "no matter what". So far I've succeeded 2 days out of 20, despite having multiple automated assists like my screen, wifi and lights all turning off (like your lamp). Willpower isn't doing it, so I'm trying to find systems that can help make this habit real. I'm feeling kind of lost though.  Yeah, I would except I have to be up at 5:30am for work! When I've been on holidays, it also goes beyond being a night owl, to the point we're I'm going to bed as the sun rises... 😱 It's not always though, but I'm having trouble picking any pattern beyond getting stuck on the computer... A good suggestion. I do 4-6 karate classes a week in the evenings, and have tried to get myself to only read and not use any screens after class, but haven't had much success so far. It seems that almost every evening I get back from work ~6:30 and some task comes up that needs to be done on the PC immediately. Then before I know it it's 2am in the morning! 🤦♂️ I'm sure a bunch of these things are false urgent, but they genuinely feel real, important and urgent in the moment. @Blort I used to get up at 6am for periods as well. It's really a force of will thing after all your alarms etc. Maybe it will help if you remind yourself that there's no urgency in "someone being wrong on the internet" etc? (Assuming doomscrolling on the phone on mastodon or whatever, I don't know what you're doing :D ) @Blort So start earlier and do some stuff instead that will calm you down and is somehow limiting but also cool enough to switch from your high dopamine surfing. Yeah. I think you may be right. Sitting down to "relax" (ie dopamine up) on the PC, just seems a trigger that then is hard to switch off. Often I've had good days where I've been busy enough doing other stuff that I never even got onto my PC until I was already tired enough to go straight to bed. |
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@Blort This might not be what you're looking for but I (ADD diagnosed) have cut caffeine completely out of my life. Since then, I am actually able to feel tired in the evening.