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steve mookie kong

@davidhmccoy

I'm an introvert, but no one can really tell since I have extroverted tendencies when around people. I do need that time at the end of a day of being around people (like when I travel) to recharge my battery.

David H. McCoy

@mookie

Very similar. I need my “brooding” time. Usually, late at night.

Agnès

@mookie as the mum of 2 introverts and 1 extravert, I can relate.
There is the same pain in their eyes when they ask me ''but for how long?'' when I ask 2 to talk or 1 to be quiet...

steve mookie kong

@MamzelleAgnes Hehe. I can’t even imagine what that’s like — though, it sounds kind of amusing :smiiiile:

Agnès

@mookie it means that I have to say things I would never have imagined like to the chatty extravert ''please, use meal time to eat''
And when my elder introvert get a phone call from their best friend, I am happy to hear their voice from their bedroom

Laberpferd

@mookie I am kind of introvert, but have totally the opposite problem

Any time i go somewhere, try to "socialize" with people, trying to get involved in going out and activities, they walk on when i try to talk with them

econads

@Laberpferd @mookie
Maybe your voice is quieter than you think it is. I used to get annoyed that people ignored me, but came to the conclusion I just spoke very quietly. I learned to compensate by speaking about 50% louder than I was comfortable with.

Laberpferd

@econads @mookie
No, not a technical problem, they DO hear it and probably give some short answers but they dont stop for a talk

Someone else from their circle is more important than me helpless trying to get involved

econads

@Laberpferd @mookie
Fuck 'em then ;-) not worth your time.

Laberpferd

@econads @mookie
Uhm... thats exactly my problem... Im struggling to get occassions to get in contact with extroverts at all, in the hope that one of them might "adopt" me

steve mookie kong

@Laberpferd @econads No one needs to be adopted. If that’s how they act towards you, they aren’t worth your time.

Laberpferd

@mookie @econads
No, its me who is looking to get out of my loneliness hell, my dark grey hole, and therefore trying to get "adopted" by these extrovert people who do go out and do stuff

Dave

@Laberpferd @mookie @econads as someone who has adopted an introvert to the extent I'm now married and have a kid: having a common interest helps. Especially helpful when trying to break into the convo is having some kind of expertise or experience the other party needs so they notice you. After that you're probably set.

econads

@Laberpferd @mookie
How about a club to meet people? Something you're interested in in an organised context?

Laberpferd

@econads

Thats my problem, in the society around me there are no specific clubs or public announcements of meetups

An example sueden.social/@Argon1001@meow.
"most events are private and only happening in small bubbles"

I dont find any local club, or online forum, mailing list etc. that is still alive where events, like bungee jumping, or divers going for a snorkeling day, et cetera are talked about

Either some extrovert would "adopt" me into their bubble, or i dont even know events

@mookie

@econads

Thats my problem, in the society around me there are no specific clubs or public announcements of meetups

An example sueden.social/@Argon1001@meow.
"most events are private and only happening in small bubbles"

I dont find any local club, or online forum, mailing list etc. that is still alive where events, like bungee jumping, or divers going for a snorkeling day, et cetera are talked about

econads

@Laberpferd @mookie
OK are you talking specifically about furries? (sorry I'm not sure of correct terms, I hope I'm not being offensive). Then I could see it would be much harder to connect.
Outside of that, I could suggest maybe a course at the Volks Hoch Schule or I used meetup.com before. :-/

Sine-Nomine🇵🇸Free Palestine🇵🇸

@mookie so true!
Need a badge / tee-shirt with...
Dear Extrovert's,
shut the fuck up!
Best regards,
The rest of us...

Everyday.Human Derek

@mookie
As as ambivert but also audhd, depending on the people, it can be confusing, so I just tell friends, if you wanna talk or not and hang out just let me know and I’ll do the same…

Sometimes the scale of overwhelming can sneak up on different friends, for me as well, sometimes, different people and different topics, SPINs and things can be comforting.
While others can raise anxiety.

Sometimes atmosphere of environment has its own social ecosystem or locus plays in role

@mookie
As as ambivert but also audhd, depending on the people, it can be confusing, so I just tell friends, if you wanna talk or not and hang out just let me know and I’ll do the same…

Sometimes the scale of overwhelming can sneak up on different friends, for me as well, sometimes, different people and different topics, SPINs and things can be comforting.
While others can raise anxiety.

lolonurse

@mookie
Thank you!! I so relate to this! And I have a good friend who is not only an extrovert, but loud, VERY opinionated & compelled to try to show everyone the error of their differing thoughts or feelings. She has many good qualities, but often makes me cringe.

steve mookie kong

@lolonurse We all have that one friend. Hehe. I have one too, same as you described your friend.

Urens

@mookie si, pour ma part, j'invite ceux de mes élèves qui prennent trop de place et se croient seuls au monde à la mettre en veille.

Pomegranate County Irregulars

@mookie As an introvert, I don’t.

No one can force me to be talkative.

And I don’t want other people to be forced to be contrary to their nature; that does not make me feel better.

katzenberger

@mookie Even as an introvert, I'd like to say that going remote has forced extroverts to do exactly that, for the most part of the day.

Telling them to have a video chat with like-minded people is like telling introverts to find a quiet corner for work. For extroverts, it's not the same as an in-person conversation - pretty much the same as a "quiet corner" in the office does not actually offer solitude to introverts.

UncannyKyle

@mookie I like to tell the person dominating the conversation "I like that, let's circle back," and then say to the introvert "what were you saying about the thing?"

Takiro 🎨

@mookie
That missing question mark drives me mad for some reason.

DELETED

@mookie maybe because introverts are always posting arrogan guff like this like they're pissed off little gremlins who would benefit from actually having friends. This shit is what WE'RE like when we're beaten down constantly by people who want us to sit down and shut up our whole lives, and we're sick to death of it. So we try to help you gobknockers and then you shittalk us and stew in your own juices about the horrors of interacting with another person. Get over yourselves.

DELETED

@mookie omg, I wanna have this as a poster on my office door :neocat_laugh_nervous:

steve mookie kong

@tfunken Hehe, if I worked in an office more often, I'd totally put this up as a poster too :smiiiile:

X Sun

@mookie Gonna use this in case of important negotiations. Thanks.

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