@rangaku@tech.lgbt I do agree a lot with this. It's become a weird group of boxes and labels that seem to have their own "cliques" and stuff and it can be super excluding when others see you and say "you dont fit in this box" or "You can only fit in this box". The whole point of queerness is to burn the box and be free from it. We label ourselves with something that describes us well, but we shouldnt be treated like everyone who uses that label, and we also shouldnt isolate or exclude people inside or outside of that label because the label isn't supposed to be a box, its a label, and not everything with that label or without it is the same. I sometimes say its like neurodivergence, there is no "brand" that you should try to "gatekeep", you just got some of this and some of that. And maybe the term "computer audhd fix it lesbian" fits for you, but that doesn't mean thats all you are and that everyone else who identifies with that is the same as you. The "defaults" or "customs" shouldn't be ignored or treated any differently than you would treat anyone else from the queer community from the get go, and if you treat anyone from any level of queerness with any less respect than any others because of these "biases" you have about the different "groups", then you should be ashamed of yourself and reevaluate what you really want from the queer community because thats not it babes.