Gregory's ServerA good list of questions we might ask ourselves before commenting on social media by whimsical #artist @elisegravel (Printable at http://elisegravel.com/en/blog/questions-to-ask-yourself-before-commenting-on-social-media/ #art)
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@KeithDJohnson @Sheril this was part of a job related course. So true and works perfect for me beside being one of the hardest things to practise!  @JohaFreu @KeithDJohnson @Sheril if something fires me up, I will often wait even until the next day, re-read, and then think about responding. It's saved me a fair few misunderstandings @KeithDJohnson @Sheril Do you know who created this image about reaction and response? Itβs sort of signed in the upper right, I think, but if I use it, Iβd like to be able to credit the source explicitly! @AndrewShields It was in my FB feed without attribution. An image search would likely reveal its origin. @KeithDJohnson Thanks for letting me know! An image search found lots of hits of the image (which is apparently very popular), but I couldnβt find one with an attribution. Itβs too bad when the source of such popular work disappears. @Sheril or we could quit telling people how to use "social" media?π€·πΌ It used to be called minding one's own business? ποΈ  @Sheril Well, @BsCreativeLife , it's like this-- a lot of people who just pop off were likely brought up feral in a barn while civilized people already know that it's considerate to engage your brain before your mouth. It's not just called "being considerate" it's also called "good manners", and they must be learned by all who claim to be civilized.
 @BsCreativeLife for extra context, this poster is part of Gravel's set of teaching materials for children/teens. It's genuinely useful for that, but I can confirm that I've found it helpful as a professionally online adult. @HauntedOwlbear Thank you for your clarification. If these are used for guidelines, great. Often I find too many telling others how to use digital media without thinking about who needs these mediums. There are lonely teens/adults who social media is the only way they can make friends. As an educator, parent, retired childcare provider, & disabled adult I have seen social media used in a variety of beneficial ways. Guidance w/out context often appears to be rules & standards that people balk at. @BsCreativeLife @edmonde that's great, please ensure to include introducing them to safe online spaces for them to speak freely as part of your lesson. This guidance does not work without it. Everybody needs a space to speak freely with their peers and engage in debates that everyone may not agree on. There are also many who don't feel safe in their environment who need social media to find a safe space. Thank you for teaching responsibility to your students, but please remember these points when doing so.  @BsCreativeLife human brain is very stupid about how it uses social media, so it's a skill that must be taught. @BsCreativeLife @Sheril It's just useful advice. Take it or leave it, your choice. It's not an order. @Sheril @elisegravel or for the simpler Socratic filter: Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary? @zoerhoff @Sheril @elisegravel Thank you for reminding me of good old Socrates! I have "Is it true... kind... necessary?" as a quote from Siddhartha Buddha. -> I did some research... Buddha, Socrates, Bernard MELTZER... Until a real researcher tells me, i'll just call it "wisdom".  @Sheril@mastodon.social @elisegravel@mastodon.online The question most commenters seem to ask themselves: "Will this get me boosts?"  Elise has an ongoing series of solid posts on Instagram about facing social media trolls. It's good. @Sheril @elisegravel i'll be sure to take this into advisement the next time HimmlerFan88 sends me a slur  @Sheril @elisegravel thereβs a three step test that i give myself all of the time: - does it need to be said only posting if you can answer yes to all three is a good gut check in potentially sensitive situations π€  @Sheril @elisegravel oh wow, I didn't realize she's over here! She's great! π Such wonderful wisdom in playful form. Thanks for posting this nice one. @Sheril @elisegravel @Sheril @elisegravel @Sheril @elisegravel YES !! this is actually a very good set of rules should've been like one of the posters they put on the computer labs we played at in my ye ol schools Good advice! But sometimes it is just when you don't follow the rules when things are getting interesting. @Sheril Finding Employment All Over The World  @Sheril @elisegravel Do I get extra points if it's Yes for all of them?  @Sheril @elisegravel #4 "Would I be ok with my comment if it was made public" seems superfluous since it literally *is* public. @Sheril @elisegravel w skrΓ³cie - martw siΔ co mΓ³wisz. To zabija autentyzm, nie podoba mi siΔ to. @Sheril @elisegravel Add "Would anyone else really care about what I have to say?" to that list, and that's basically the list of why rarely post anything. @Sheril @elisegravel often after writing a post I ask myself these questions... and then erase π (especially the public thing) Love this! I wish we didn't have to write how-to's to treat people with respect, but I suppose that is the way of the world anymore.. Jamie  |
@Sheril @elisegravel The quick guideline used to be: would you be ok with what youβre saying showing up on the front page of the NY Post? (Whatβs the digital source of scurrilous gossip these days? You could drop that in instead of the Post.)