I'm asking that developers be aware of skills that may not be code based, yes.
I'm asking that developers recognize a failure state and work to find solutions for it, yes.
I'm asking that the industry generally get over itself and understand that they may need help in certain things instead of presuming that they're good at it.
@jrconlin @hyc @mhoye the solution to "there is a big gap between what maintainers provide and what users need" is not to ask overworked/underpaid FOSS maintainers to take on more responsibility. nor is it to deny the need exists.
the solution is for the broader community to recognize the value of user-facing, newcomer-friendly docs and dedicated user support, and to help maintainers provide them. that requires investment. it's part of the broader open source collective action problem.