Reading through now.
In case I forget (I always forget):
"building cultural norms into the tooling is much more effective and less alienating than chiding"
One of the best encapsulations of this idea, born of the challenges of managing the StackOverflow community norms (which tend towards scolding like lava) and Discourse (which aims to be the opposite), is Jeff Atwood's "Just In Time" Theory of User Behaviour:
https://blog.codinghorror.com/the-just-in-time-theory/
I return to this a lot - it's useful.
@kissane
Re. the second "couldn’t find people or interests" group, I viscerally feel this.
I set up an alt-account to indulge in therapeutic socialising around the (big) football (soccer) team I follow.
The experience has been excruciatingly difficult in many ways. It's been a job. I'm two week into relentless *work* to drum up even a little consistent sociability. It's been almost zero fun. If I were normal, I'd have given up on day two.
Two idea I think would make it easier (cont)...