@Anya_Adora @raphaelmorgan allies dont use transwoman....

@Anya_Adora @raphaelmorgan allies dont use transwoman. if someone is using transwoman they're not educated enough to functionally support us even if they mean well. trans people can use transwoman if they want in the same way i can reclaim the f-slur if i choose, but it categorically does cause harm.

transwoman is absolutely dehumanizing and harmful tho and it's easy to get muddled and confused about it (see: this discussion) which is part of its power. it dehumanizes us in a subtle way. so subtle that even trans people sometimes gloss over or miss its intended (bigoted) function

anya i really think you're missing something here. i cant explain is better than jess but it feels like maybe a re-reading is warranted?

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Anya Adora :verified_trans: :donor: replied to brielle bouquet 💐

@briellebouquet @raphaelmorgan I think you all care too much about what terms TERFS use and are too soft when it comes to this. If this really harms your mental state and degrades you as a person, feel free to tell the world and all cis people.

Personally i think it's doing nothing but pushing people away, but maybe that's the point of all of this.

If the world doesn't do everything you want that's a problem.

Sorry but being a trans person who lost their career over being trans, came out before civil rights, was homeless for 6 years... all because i'm trans...

I'm a fuck of a lot stronger than this nonsense and i refuse to care about this conversation anymore.

I'm not soft. I'm real.

Personally i think it's doing nothing but pushing people away, but maybe that's the point of all of this.

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12 Jul 2023 at 5:02 | Open on infosec.exchange

brielle bouquet 💐 replied to Anya Adora :verified_trans: :donor:

@Anya_Adora @raphaelmorgan bigots dont get to define us or label us. it's a worthwhile fight. they use it as a slur to harass us.

yes there are other pressing issues facing trans people. but denying that dehumanizing slurs are a problem absolutely confuses me.

the other stuff you said? noone is implying that you're soft or that you dont have official transfemme credentials. only that 'transwoman' is a slur used against us by hate groups, and that it's bad, and that fighting labels bigots slap on us ti hurt us is in fact worthwhile

@Anya_Adora @raphaelmorgan bigots dont get to define us or label us. it's a worthwhile fight. they use it as a slur to harass us.

yes there are other pressing issues facing trans people. but denying that dehumanizing slurs are a problem absolutely confuses me.

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12 Jul 2023 at 5:07 | Open on queer.party

Anya Adora :verified_trans: :donor: replied to brielle bouquet 💐

@briellebouquet @raphaelmorgan Some trans fems use the word 'Tranny' to describe themselves, even here, openly, in jest.

If you want to continue this then tell me how that's ok and not having a space between two words is somehow the end of the world for us.

Because apparently some folks think i'm a bigot for not caring about the space which was made clear in this thread.

Let's move on to a real slur.

12 Jul 2023 at 5:10 | Open on infosec.exchange

Anya Adora :verified_trans: :donor: replied to Anya Adora :verified_trans: :donor:

@briellebouquet @raphaelmorgan Also, let me make this very clear.

None of you or any trans person anywhere gets to decide my 'credentials' as a trans person.

Ever.

12 Jul 2023 at 5:13 | Open on infosec.exchange

Morgan replied to Anya Adora :verified_trans: :donor:

@Anya_Adora @briellebouquet she was literally saying that we weren't trying to do that... are you just the type of person who scans posts for a few words that you can take out of context so that you can attack other trans people? Please untag me from future conversation because I am *done* with that sort of behavior along with the bootlicking

12 Jul 2023 at 5:16 | Open on disabled.social

brielle bouquet 💐 replied to Anya Adora :verified_trans: :donor:

@Anya_Adora @raphaelmorgan well fuck you, i tried. ive been harassed in floods by people sneeringly dehumanizing me with it and you're going to call me soft and act like that's nothing. it isnt. and thats fucking insulting of you to say it is. repeatedly.

i didnt for one second question your trans credentials. only why you pulled them out in a discussion where a) i didnt doubt them or call them into question and b) where they werent relevant to the discussion

i specifically said trans women can reclaim the slur. but that there are consequences to doing so for those who see what it is and where it comes from.

you're ignoring 3/4 of the shit you're replying to and youve been rude from the beginning. goodbye.

edit: i muted you, dont reply

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12 Jul 2023 at 5:17 | Open on queer.party

brielle bouquet 💐 replied to brielle bouquet 💐

@Anya_Adora @raphaelmorgan more importantly, accepting compromise on our right to label ourselves because we dont want to push cis people away feels cowardly and adjacent to cis gays who join the LGB alliance bc they think trans people make gay rights harder to sell to cishets.

we are who we are. im not trying to buy acceptance from the cishets by compromising who i am or how im seen for public relations. i want respect and i want my womanhood recognized, now.

12 Jul 2023 at 5:13 | Open on queer.party

Anya Adora :verified_trans: :donor: replied to brielle bouquet 💐

@briellebouquet @raphaelmorgan That's fine, feel however you wish.

I just wish you could understand that your womanhood isn't defined by them.

You are obviously their slave because a space between two words or not matters so much it can destroy your dignity.

To me that's problematic and i refuse to let others decide who i am or what i am.

But you all do you and fight the world over a space between words to maintain your dignity.

12 Jul 2023 at 5:17 | Open on infosec.exchange