@berkes @rysiek - I'm not privy to what goes on behind the admin panel.
I used to be a moderator for a large online forum before social media and I saw some ugly things that the average user was never exposed to.
Now, I am the blissfully unaware user who doesn't see firsthand the depravity and vileness that gets posted online by bad actors.
I don't have answers for the spam problem. I just don't want to lose touch with friends because my instance grew too quickly and got defederated.