this is very discouraging. ive been hosting my own email for 2 months now. initially, i did get spam-listed by one of the popular spam filters on the internet but after requesting PTR and reverse-DNS from my service provider, things got smooth. I just had to email the spam filtering company with a polite email to remove me from their blacklist, and they responded rather quickly - in fact they also pointed out that they whitelisted me on other filters as well...

other than that, im doing my best to keep my email legit through DKIM... etc.

you think this is temporary and that i should just accept loss at some point and not depend on my home server day 1?