Adding this from something I wrote in a reply elsewhere:

We are fine with self promotion here on Friend Camp. There are a lot of indie artists here who promote their wares to live. Our tolerance for promotion is actually very high, especially *self* promotion!

"Annoying" is whatever the 60 of us agree is annoying. That's what's nice about a small server: we can get reasonable consensus on a case by case basis without having to codify everything.