@murilove @cblgh your comment reminded me of the 2nd of the 4 Rs of the deep adaptation agenda:

resilience: how do we keep what we really want to keep?
relinquishment: what do we need to let go of in order to not make matters worse?
restoration: what can we bring back to help us with the coming difficulties and tragedies?
reconciliation: with what and whom can we make peace with as we face our mutual mortality?

jembendell.com/2019/05/15/deep