@yaxu I don’t think it’s that men have a higher tolerance for assholes, it’s that men have a higher tolerance for assholery that is male-coded.

The gossipy asshole who pushes people out by turning the group’s consensus is tolerated much less than the “genius” asshole who is happy to take credit for things others have done, while pushing people out and ensuring that other genius-assholes don’t arise to challenge them.

Men tolerate the “great man” myth; women know the hidden work.