@jerry The fediverse isn't the silver bullet or utopia some made it out to be.
It's pretty wild out there in the fediverse if the admin isn't properly hands-on. The server I joined I chose because the admin is protective and fairly proactive.
It makes a difference when admins are willing to do things like defederate from instances that have high levels of harassers.
We have to work together to create and protect our communities. It's hard work, and there are no easy answers. Us white folks need to recognize the problem and ask how to help out. If we can't do that, we need to sit down, shut up, and let others handle it.