So ... is the Fediverse better or worse than commercial social media platforms? Well, clearly, it is better in some ways and worse in some others.
Our friends in the math department will tell us: you are trying to compare two things that cannot be compared, neither is better than the other, just like you can't compare vectors or complex numbers directly, you cannot compare systems that have more than one feature directly!
(cont'd)
Except, of course, we can compare and we do compare systems with many features all the time. We trade off good and bad against each other, and we can do the same thing for the Fediverse and commercial social media platforms.
The result is necessarily subjective, but I for one am perfectly willing to go through some extra hoops to understand comments on other servers, if that means I'm not commercially surveilled. Your tradeoffs may be different.