Gregory's Server
Except, of course, we can compare and we do compare systems with many features all the time. We trade off good and bad against each other, and we can do the same thing for the Fediverse and commercial social media platforms.
The result is necessarily subjective, but I for one am perfectly willing to go through some extra hoops to understand comments on other servers, if that means I'm not commercially surveilled. Your tradeoffs may be different.
So on balance, I believe the Fediverse is better. I think most people here agree (otherwise why would you be here?). Even if some parts are bad. Maybe even realllly bad.
Do we have work to do? Ohhh yesssss ... on reducing harassment and many other things. Let's focus our energies on that, and -- note this advantage of the Fediverse: we can actually do the work we think needs doing, unlike with commercial social media where we just can complain and generally get ignored -- let's go!
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