And the absolute most infuriating thing is when cises "mourn" the "death" of the close one they'd thought was cis.

Fuck off with this shit. You don't mourn the death of your straight friend when she comes out of the closet as a lesbian. Do you.

Think about what you're saying by "grieving" the death of a painful, exhausting, personality-killing, joy-of-living-destroying LIE.

And then maybe don't say it?