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Here’s what parenting can look like. When I told my dad I was trans, my dad’s response was, “Oh! I can send you jewelry now!” (He was retired and made jewelry as a hobby). Two days latter, I had a letter in the mail addressed to Joelle, the first time “Joelle” ever got mail, with a necklace in it. Later he made me this one. He told me, “I hope I got the colors right, I looked it up online.” You don’t have to mourn a child transitioning. You can be the first to do so many affirming things. 117 comments
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  @joelle Awww! That was pretty much my sister-in-law's reaction to my daughter coming out. 😁 :heart_trans: @joelle This is beautiful. Five years in and my mother and family still can't get my name right, yet alone stick with consistently using my pronouns. Glad you've had such support and I truly mean that. :) Metamorphosis is beautiful and there is no mourning needed. Kids grow up and no longer need their parents to look after them, some people mourn it some celebrate, they become independent, some people mourn it, some celebrate, some come out as themselves, different from what they thought they'd be, some people mourn it, some celebrate. I hope I'm always in the latter group.         @joelle A trans dude I know was so stoked when his dad taught him a full Windsor.    @joelle Heterosexual people try to be supportive the best way they know how. Wonderful story you shared.  @joelle What an amazing dad, and congrats on transition and having an amazing parent! :blobcat_party: Although an annoying pedant part of me was like "He could have sent jewelry pre-transition, too!" xD    @joelle absolute hero, and yet I'm sure he saw it as a no brainer (which is the whole point of course) That is the kind of parent all of us should hope to be… Give your Dad a big hug from the internet.    @joelle This post makes me happy. It's so nice to see parents supporting their trans or queer kids.       @joelle One day, I hope this will be a wholly non-noteworthy act - unconditional support of your child. Absolutely beautiful! ❤️ @joelle @Valentalae Holey shit this is the most wholesome thing I've seen on the internet this week! <3   @joelle One of the really fun things nobody tells you about one of your kids transitioning is that they suddenly get to do a whole bunch of new things quite often at a completely different time in life as most people get to do them. So when my son transitioned at 29 I was getting pictures over whatsapp of him proudly showing off his first successful tying of a necktie, buying a suit - that kind of thing.    @joelle That’s a lovely story :blobheart: I’m glad that I’m not the only trans person with an awesome dad. When I told my dad, he said “I’ll always support anything you need to do to be happy”. We’ve been a lot closer since I came out, I think he always knew I was struggling with something, even if he didn’t know what. @joelle while we were never able to have kids, we made a pact that any nieces or nephews that decided to come out or realized they were nephews or nieces would *always* be welcomed in our home. You've got one hell of a kick-ass dad. @joelle Yeah, I don't get the mourning at all. Transitioning means that a person is coming into their own, becoming whole, usually that comes with more happiness, better health, etc. etc. What's to mourn? All that there is to worry about is a shitty attitude and restrictive policies in society, but they would be just as harmful to the non-transitioned person. Very pretty necklace! @joelle it really is as simple as listening and supporting. even just trying to understand means so much. @joelle your father is a Munchausen’s enabling retard and you are a gross mentally ill troon. At least most schizophrenics are probably too whacked out to post about their mental illness online, let alone drag their enabling family through the mud as if it were virtuous. One day you’ll realize how the people “bullying” you were right, and that you only made it worse by trooning out for discord points. But until then, you done fucked your shit up. RIP, faggot.  @joelle this is such a lovely heartwarming story. You are really lucky. Thanks for sharing!   @joelle You have such a great dad! I wish I can be such a great parent to my Children, too |
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@joelle @abstractcow wow, this is so beautiful. 😍