@ulyssesalmeida @aral That's a pretty load-bearing "usually" there. If a conversation has already broken down for whatever reason, yes, maybe you'll find that meaning with some frequency - other than that, though, it sounds more to me like the kind of "You probably mean X as an insult"! they-are-out-to-get-me kind of excuse a lot (!) of people come up with to not have to listen or check their own standpoint.

I think you have it backwards.