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πŸ‡ΊπŸ‡¦ Anna Filina

@ramsey I probably blocked thousands of people by now. People have the right to feel offended by it. I don't care. My mental health is more important. I have been harassed by people I blocked before. One time, it escalated to my fearing for my physical safety and getting a lawyer involved. Don't be that person. If you get blocked, just move on. Don't dwell on it. Maybe the person was wrong in blocking you, maybe they weren't, but it's not up to you. You can survive without them in your feed.

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πŸ‡ΊπŸ‡¦ Anna Filina

@ramsey For anyone who hasn't experienced anything even close to it: good for you; that doesn't change what happened to me. You can continue not blockig prople, or providing them with polite explanations as to why you block them, and you can continue thinking that to do otherwise is rude. Just don't harass people for an explanation. You aren't entitled to it.

πŸ‡ΊπŸ‡¦ Anna Filina

@ramsey Oh there was also another guy who didn't like the manner in which I shared my knowledge, so he went to harass me on every social media as he got blocked, then actually attended an event I was speaking at abroad and tried to approach me. Luckily I let my friends know in advance that the asshole lived in Berlin. They got up from the couch and he ran off. It's insane to me when someone tells me I need to be more polite to such people. This is not an isolated incident.

πŸ‡ΊπŸ‡¦ Anna Filina

@ramsey I also have friends who got contacted via social media by drunk perverts with colorful advances and other scary sh*t. I seriously envy people who had the kind of safe life where they feel like they can talk to people before blocking them, and not fear escalation or retaliation in real life.

Claudio Zizza 🦜

@afilina @ramsey Because real life has no block button it's pretty disappointing that one has to stop visiting events while those are accepted.

πŸ‡ΊπŸ‡¦ Anna Filina

@SenseException @ramsey I'm happy that it didn't close any doors for me. All these people seem to have disappeared shortly after. Even the speaker whose wife was harassing me on all social media (and who defended her actions) hasn't been seen in public for ages.

will talk for elePHPants!

@afilina @ramsey Social media to me is "screaming into the void". Expecting that everyone is actually listening to that is pretty cocky...

Expecting an explanation WHY one doesn't want to listen to my ramblings is ... a sign of delusion of grandeur?

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