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@ljrk I am so upset. I thought I had filled the major gaps in my knowledge. This is showing me how much I missed. I was a comp sci major. A bunch of classes included “history of” bits in the beginning, and interspersed throughout. I was often the only woman (it’s complicated: :genderfluid_flag: ) in the class. This would have made life a lot better for me, and helped me feel a lot less alienated. 3 comments
 @glitchontwitch Same, absolutely same. I'm using my "male" (Leonard) and "female" (Janis) names as well as both binary pronouns and happy about that. But for those who I wouldn't consider friends, allies, or whatnot but maybe even downright transphobes: Don't "he/him" me! You better fully acknowledge my feminity. @glitchontwitch Also did all courses for a major, just skimped on the thesis. And all of the above were disappeared in my lectures, not a single one of them mentioned. |
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To unpack some of the gender stuff: at the time I was sort of recloseted, even to myself.
But also, in spaces that are unbalanced like that ( 20something:1, and occasionally 20something:2 ) and especially places where people keep claiming there are no women, I sometimes kind of… gender “lock” out of spite?
I strongly dislike people using my fluidity as an excuse for them to maintain their gender stereotypes by picking out my gnc traits and ascribing it to the one it “matches”.