@ljrk

To unpack some of the gender stuff: at the time I was sort of recloseted, even to myself.

But also, in spaces that are unbalanced like that ( 20something:1, and occasionally 20something:2 ) and especially places where people keep claiming there are no women, I sometimes kind of… gender “lock” out of spite?

I strongly dislike people using my fluidity as an excuse for them to maintain their gender stereotypes by picking out my gnc traits and ascribing it to the one it “matches”.