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Melanie (they, she)

@lori I'm writing to say that I admire your response so much. The second crime scene boundary, your direct communication style, making the whole thing public, thank you for modeling such great boundaries.

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Anna

@melanie @lori seconded, this is an education!

And… they started their own physical t-shirt printing business? To give away merch? That’s wild.

lori

@venite @melanie in a different country! They had to set up a legal entity in a whole other country to print tshirts! I hope this is some kind of money laundering scam because otherwise what the hell are you DOING

And the shirts don't even have their logo on them and they're giving the 20,000 shirts away for free

Anna

@lori @melanie I thought one of my previous employers had it bad when they decided to build their own Java framework because they disliked one (1) thing about Spring. This is a class of their own.

funnymonkey

@lori I love how tax compliance was too hard to implement, but starting a new separate tshirt printing business was totally in scope and achievable. @venite @melanie

Anna

@funnymonkey Both are such obvious signs that they think building in-house from scratch is the only solution. And that’s a pretty big blind spot to have. @lori @melanie

Leona

@funnymonkey @lori @venite @melanie re: creating t-shirt company vs implementing tax compliance - - YES omg. I hadn't put the weirdness clear in my head until you pointed that out. So, so much of A Choice.

lori

@melanie I've dealt with this type of guy before, if you try to debate them they just feel rewarded for their behavior, the best thing you can do is give them nothing. Then if they keep insisting on yelling at you it's clear that this was never a discussion, they're just ranting at random strangers. They have nothing to twist the story with later, but you have a lot of proof of them being boundary crossers later.

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