Gregory's Server@courtcan I'd add:
If someone seems like they have their shit together, maybe they are just chill about not knowing what the fuck they are doing.
It doesn't have to be a false front nor everything going right - sometimes you're just stumbling through the dark and cool with it since you have no other option anyway: no light and no extra feet. Which just reinforces your last sentence.
@JonasJRichter @courtcan Seconded, I have my own goal in life, but it's not an end state. Do no harm, take no shit, and that's all I need to feel fulfilled. Everything else is ad lib