 Here's a truth for you -- especially if you haven't hit your 40s yet, maybe not even your 30s. The truth is this: *Nobody* knows what the fuck they're doing. But what are we really doing? Nobody knows. WE'RE ALL JUST DOING WHAT WE CAN WITH THE TOOLS WE HAVE AT THE TIME. 46 comments
@HCBunny I'll hit 47 soon and am finally IN MY CORE figuring out that I have nothing figured out. 😆 Paid lip service to the concept for a good decade before I had to admit it was just lip service. @courtcan I actually found it empowering when I figured this out. I feel more comfortable putting my own ideas forward and am less inclined to wait around for someone who would (supposedly) know what to do.  @courtcan yeah, getting close on 40, and have been convinced of that for some time, some people seem to think they know what they are doing, distrust them in particular. @courtcan I'd add: It doesn't have to be a false front nor everything going right - sometimes you're just stumbling through the dark and cool with it since you have no other option anyway: no light and no extra feet. Which just reinforces your last sentence.  @JonasJRichter @courtcan Seconded, I have my own goal in life, but it's not an end state. Do no harm, take no shit, and that's all I need to feel fulfilled. Everything else is ad lib Preach‼️ I once received this advice about feelings of insecurity or inferiority: “Don’t compare your inside to someone else’s outside!”  Courtney for president. (Hastily crafting picket signs and making huge amounts of coffee and bagels.)  @courtcan this is SO true. The minute I stepped into the Managers Room, it was immediately apparent that no one has a clue and the only reason we're in there and other people aren't is opportunity. Plain and simple. I wish I knew this when I was younger. @courtcan I'm soon to be 53 and honestly this is one of the best things you can learn after you hit your 20s. Some people know some things and can help, but for the most part we're all just winging it. School's over - the simple problems with known, simple answers are gone. @courtcan I watched the news as a child and remember thinking, “I’m glad the adults have this figured out.” Then I became an adult and came to the same realization. Nobody knows what the hell they’re doing.  This is the Fallacy of the Middle in operation (and in the form of a self-contradiction, to boot).  @courtcan You got it! I’m recently retired and I think I you figured out the key. It worked for me. **There is no formula** At best, what we have is a toolbox. Tools can be anything: rules, skills, a bit of knowledge, a personal value, whatever. The trick is knowing which tool to use at any moment, because life is moments. There is only “now” — yesterday already is in the past and tomorrow has not come yet. That’s it. Shakespeare knew: All the world’s a stage, Also: Life's but a walking shadow, a poor player, @courtcan @courtcan @jamesthomson I am pretty sure late in my life I am going to get my shit together. It’s going to be a glorious minute.   I suggest an exception to this - in my limited experience, the people who aren’t afraid to say they don’t know, or they aren’t sure, tend to be the ones who kinda do know what they’re doing. The more you learn, the more you realise how little you know. @alexanderdyas @courtcan Someone who really knows what they're doing typically just does it without thinking or making a big deal of it, and will a) assume everyone else also already knows a lot, and b) add caveats everywhere  @courtcan and yet most of the time the water comes out of the tap and is drinkable. Most of the time the electricity works. Most of the buildings and bridges don't fall over. @courtcan Get out of my head. Honestly, this is advice that ever 18-year old needs to hear |
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