Realized something about federated WordPress blogs today, re: the different reply options on Mastodon:
If someone replies using the "Public" option, blog owner gets a WP notification to approve for posting on the blog too.
If someone replies using the "Unlisted" option, blog owner doesn't get a WP notification, reply can only be on Mastodon side.
If someone uses the "Mentioned people only" (i.e., DM) option, blog owner doesn't get a WP notification, reply isn't seen at all by blog owner.
So: if anyone has ever tried to DM me via the @1001otheralbums.com account by replying to a post there, I have never and can never see it. Those DMs simply go poof, a sacrifice to the fediverse gods or some such. I guess if you need a void to scream into, by all means DM @1001otheralbums.com all you want!