Don't take the narratives about this war at a face value. Narratives work because we humans love a good story. This for sure isn't one of them. And it's easier to bite on a better version of it - where heroes are brave and the villain is clear.

Can't hold it against us. I sure can't, I love me a good story too. But listening to a story is giving in to the will of the storyteller. And not every storyteller uses their power to do good.