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Nora Reed

kids should be allowed to have secrets from their parents and people who believe otherwise don't see kids as human beings

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100mountains

@NoraReed i see them as kind of snotty loud things. pretty sure they evolve into human later.

Nora Reed

@100mountains that's not a child you're looking at, it's a mirror

100mountains

@NoraReed yes i embrace him, lovely little lad. bit silly mind. that was sposed to be a joke. but yeh dont get why anyone would require that. do people like that still exist even ?

Seedy the dweeb

@NoraReed This. If I was to have a child, they'd have as much a right to privacy as any adult. If they felt something was wrong, I'd trust them to tell me if they felt up to it. I shouldn't have to spy on them or force words out of their mouths! Having been a victim of this myself a few times in the 2010s, I feel very strongly about this.

Enne🐝

@NoraReed I agree.
I feel like in the perfect world, one wouldn't feel like one needs to hide anything from one's parents, but... that's hardly how it goes most of the time.
Even if it were the perfect world situation, everyone deserves privacy and having their boundaries respected.

Grrrr, Darth Moose Shark

@NoraReed THIS.

Me not trying to own my kid's private life meant she felt comfortable coming out to me.

Parents who don't let kids have secrets are not safe parents.

sortius

@NoraReed I don't think it's that clear cut, and I don't think you've defined things well enough to make any claim.

My 5 year old? Nope, fuck letting him have any secrets. It can be a danger to him, and a danger to his sister and I.

My 9 year old, we've discussed privacy, her right to it, but also the responsibilities that come with privacy.

Yes, kids can and should have secrets, once they understand what secrets are healthy, and what aren't.

Nora Reed

@sortius i don't need to define terms for one off posts about queer kids not telling their abusive parents they're queer because random australians who are happy to use their own kids as rhetorical points might whine about it

sortius

@NoraReed you never mentioned queerness, at all you bloviating boil.

Queer kids don't need "allies" like you. I grew up what would be deemed "queer", and you're the type of "ally" that neither understands our situation, nor cares. You're just an arsehole

Leaf

@NoraReed oh hey, this Sortius person also went on a random antisemitic tirade full of ad hominem invective at a Jewish person the other day. what a quality human being

Leaf

@NoraReed Me too, though at least I know their mod blocked and reported sortius for them. it’s not fun how often repeat offenders like this seem to stick around

Nora Reed

@magneticcrow like bad pennies. it seems like fediverse is actually kind of small

Leaf

@NoraReed yeah, I wish it would grow already. But this is why I find the notes feature so helpful, back on the other place I’d have to try and remember who was petty blocks and who was a whole bigot

JamieGC

@NoraReed I was raised fundamentalist Christian. I know exactly what people who believe that children do not have rights are capable of.

P J Evans

@NoraReed
I was 10, almost 11, when I realized that adults didn't need to know everything that I thought about or did.

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