@kissane That's a lot to take in, but I'll focus on the first point regarding feeling unwelcome.
I understand their sentiment and agree to a point, but at the same time I just can't let people squash others under the name of freedom.
Yes, obviously there's a culture clash - people who have formed communities vs people who expect a premium class service and want to speak to the manager.
This was the motivation behind me writing this post on Lemmy explaining some of the cultural differences between Twitter and Mastodon communities.
(I also believe instances should have a big README / tutorial written by instance admins. There's a lot of things to be improved yet)