@kissane Fantastic post and there are a bunch of points I agree with. I had my partner sign up and she expressed annoyance when trying to follow someone on another instance and I had to admit that it's not the greatest right now, and you just sort of have to do the search-and-follow dance right now.
So many little obnoxious things that I've gotten used to that could be so much better.
I'll stick with it, though, because I have hope for a user-supported internet.