@kissane While being yelled at is not fun and likely needs to be cut down, a lot of these other things subtly point towards key differences in what people want from a social network. I'm noting two big divides.
Number 1: a lot of people want to be tracked. They don't say it explicitly, but they're asking for features that only work if the network is doing tracking.
Number 2: people want the "right to post", but they really don't want to be partake of the governance required...
@kissane Some examples for Number 1.
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...the way it could throw things in front of me that I never would have even thought to go look for on my own
That's tracking.
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Discoverability/self promo is limited
Tracking
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Quote-replies ... is how I decide are important follows.
Tracking
Likewise, Number 2 pops up a variety of places.
But note how not a single quote includes lines like "I helped fund my instance but disagreed with the board of governors" ...