Gregory's ServerFirst of all, you don't get to dictate the rules on any others instance to begin withNo, but any admin is free to block instances of which they don't like the rules. I do agree it's silly to say "change your rules or else", just block.and secondly why should you be bothered by this?If someone is not posting extreme hate speech all day themself, but is clearly not bothered by seeing it because they are happily chatting with people who do post hate speech, I don't trust that person. Yes there are rare people who try to reform hateful people through befriending them, but usually people who tolerate hate agree with it to an extent. I think the same applies to groups of people, and I don't believe there are entire instances dedicated to healing hateful people through mass friendship.
In my experience, when someone says "I won't block anyone! Free speech!", that person will always bully others. Every time. "Free speech" is used as a code for "I should be allowed to hurt others without consequences".
I know some people are principled about giving everyone a chance to be good before responding to circumstantial evidence that they're not good, but I expect that adds a lot of work to moderation.
In my experience, when someone says "I won't block anyone! Free speech!", that person will always bully others. Every time. "Free speech" is used as a code for "I should be allowed to hurt others without consequences".
I know some people are principled about giving everyone a chance to be good before responding to circumstantial evidence that they're not good, but I expect that adds a lot of work to moderation.