@chockenberry I understand that a normal human being expects other to be normal as well, but unfortunately the world doesn’t work this way and so if anybody decides to be a sharecropper (https://www.tbray.org/ongoing/When/200x/2003/07/12/WebsThePlace) then he shouldn’t be surprised when stuff happens.
And I am sorry about your mum. Loosing a parent is harsh experience. Give yourself a time to grieve it through.