Let’s make it clear:

Using $1 software doesn’t make you the same ideology than one or more of $1 users

Using $1 software doesn’t make you the same ideology than one or more of $1 developers

Above applies even to absolutely incompatible ideologies like developer being transophobe and user being lgbtq+, at least as long as open source software concerned amd no “anti-enemy tactics” incorporated into software

But it does not mean that you should not care about developers at all, because oss software is about community making software, and if some part of community is being dicks to specific people it is a problem because people who are feeling not comfortable in OSS project community would leave/fork and make overall development slower and harder

Conflicting ideologies IS a thing where one ideology is being a dick to specific people and community of those people being dicks in return