honestly this whole "my significant other came out as trans and i feel betrayed" story is just so awful.

you've been in a relationship with this person for 10 years, you know them very well, and suddenly one small change happens and you go "i can't be with a woman" and dump them.

like, what the heck? you didn't fall in love with their penis or their Y chromosome, relationships based on that don't typically last a decade.