@joel @stefano it is... my colleagues and me have a "saying": "a child that was spoiled" is (caught) in passive tense with no opportunity to be in active tense.

The real professional term is "learned helplessness" by eg. soc. overparenting like in lawnmower or helicopter parents...

FYI: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/behavior-problems-behavior-solutions/202106/the-trouble-helicopter-lawnmower-and-tiger-parents