thanks for sharing @kissane

one perspective that i find really helpful is chatacterised by:
"if something is worth doing, it's worth doing half arsed"

trying, and valuing trying, and doing some is so important.

every effort, every hope, every positive step is a thing.
learning and trying to be who you (i, we) want to be, whilst loving and nurturing the slips and stumbles on the way

never let the impossibility of idealised perfection stop us from trying to get on okay, compromising as we go